Adolescence is unlike any other time in a person’s life. It is a time of transition of moving away from childhood and toward becoming an adult. Developmentally, emotions and impulsiveness drive your teen’s behavior. The ability to use reason and logic are still developing which can be confusing and frustrating for parents and those who care for teenagers. Additionally, these changes are accompanied by the introduction of hormones which impact mood, motivation, and physical changes. This time can be challenging for both teens and parents.

But adolescence can also be an exciting time. Teens are learning to be adults. By connecting with teens, parents and guardians can help them navigate these changes and develop into caring and successful adults. Making a meaningful connection with teens means stepping into their world and helping them develop healthy ways to resolve problems, relate to others, and cope with challenging and confusing feelings.

There are many ways to connect with teens but here are 3 ways that can help parents and guardians get started toward building a deeper and more meaningful relationship.

1. Show them they are a priority.

Tell your teen how much they mean to you. Don’t assume they already know. Learn about the Love Languages https://5lovelanguages.com to discover what resonates with them and makes your teen feel loved. We invest in what we value so make time to spend with your teen. Spending time with someone shows them they are important and worthy of your time.

2. Be empathetic and really listen to them.

Allow your teen to talk openly and suspend your feelings and opinions. Provide space for them to express who they are becoming and what is important to them. Find out about their interests and how they feel about their world. By doing this you are letting them know they are important to you. Also, remember the challenges and frustrations of being a teenager and show empathy for what your teen is experiencing now. Put yourself in their shoes.

3. Live a life that is consistent with what you are teaching your teen.

We have all heard the saying, “Actions speak louder than words.” This is especially true for teens. Model for your teen the way you want them to behave. Show them how to handle challenges, conflicts, and disappointments in healthy ways. Demonstrate how to be a good friend, spouse, and responsible person in the world. Again, what parents do can be more powerful that what is said.

Adolescence is a time when teens are learning how to become adults. By connecting with your teen, parents and guardians place themselves in the position to provide support, love, guidance, and encouragement. Making your teen a priority, allowing them to be understood, and providing them with a positive model will give your teen the skills to handle this challenging time and become responsible and confident adults.

If you find yourself struggling to connect or any other challenges and feel you need assistance, we are here to help. Our licensed counselors at The Fountains Counseling Center are ready and willing to walk alongside you to help you reach your goals.